Are you REALLY ready for love?


Love is patient and kind. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:4,7 NLT)

L.O.V.E, a four letter word that means so much, yet, is used so freely. The word has become so second nature that we use it for everything  and most of the time don’t mean it. A prime example is during the hustle and bustle of Valentine’s Day. While women look forward to the holiday, men not so much–well except if they are single. Let’s be honest: ladies to receive a gift of some sort from a guy makes your heart leap for joy. Men, although you’re not big fans of the holiday, just to walk around with a beautiful woman on your side, you feel as if you are the MAN. However, relationships should not be like that but much much more.

  And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. (Deuteronomy 6:5 NLT)

Women, instead of chasing after some man to get a $5 stuffed animal, chase after God so He can provide you with the man your heart desires. Men don’t be discouraged because you don’t have a woman by your side or jealous of your friends because they do. Instead, surrender your heart to Christ and He will work things out in your favor. I guess you say it’s easier said than done right? How would I know? Well, as I stated in my testimony  I was a sucker for men and I wanted to be loved. I wanted to receive a bag full of goodies and a card with the words “I love you” inside. I  mean a girl can dream right?  At least I was able to get cards in elementary school, but once high school and college came along, those gifts stopped and the only gift I would receive would be a call from my mother and even that wasn’t enough.

Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7 NLT)

It wasn’t until the summer of 2014 when I found out why I had been single for long. Bottom line: I was not ready for a relationship. To truly submit to a man, nourish and cherish him… Please! I could barely figure out who my real friends were. So, when God told me that I wasn’t ready, I could only agree with Him because He was right. You see, as we grow older and look at the “role models” of entertainment from Kim to Kanye and Angelina to Brad, we wish to have a similar relationship one day. Let’s take Beyonce and Jay-Z for example. Since they have a child, great music careers and can often be seen together in photos with a smile plastered on their face, people automatically assume that their marriage is true and their love is real. But as all things, looks can be deceiving. Nobody truly knows what truly takes place behind Beyonce and Jay-Z’s closed doors, so your relationship goals shouldn’t be focused on just what you see from the naked eye on various screens.

This is why it is important to take heed and hear God out in order to find out if the person you are in a relationship with is truly for you. In all honesty, the purpose of a relationship is to grow and mature into marriage, which is why it shouldn’t be taken lightly. In fact, God says in 1 Corinthians 7:1 ” … It is good to abstain from sexual relations” and carries on to say in verses 8-9,  “So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” In other words, if a relationship is solely based on sex, the outward appearance of one’s mate and/or the amount of money or gifts one can receive, that relationship will not last. For it is considered unclean and will not have have any inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ (Ephesians 5:5 NLT). Just thought I’d share that with you like it is #keepinit100. 

 Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him (Ephesians 5:6 NLT)

So my friends don’t fall for any and everything a person says he or she will do, instead seek and ask God for guidance. Don’t mope or be saddened that you don’t have a valentine this year or a boyfriend/ girlfriend in general. Instead, praise God for the season you are currently living in because when your Queen or Prince Charming does come along more responsibilities will as well. If you are in a relationship and feel as if you are stuck, seek God and ask Him what to do. When you receive your response and sense deep down in your heart that the relationship isn’t worth your time, leave- for God has something better in store for you. As always, trust and believe my friends. Even though the journey can be tedious and we want to give up and turn back to our old ways, remember that God will never put more on us than we can bare because through Him all things are possible.

 Wait patiently for the Lord.
    Be brave and courageous 
    Yes, wait patiently for the Lord. (Psalms 27:14 NLT)

Jonathan McReynolds – The Way That You Love Me


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